Imago Clinical
Relationship Therapists
Researched
Processes

60 years experience
in Couples Therapy
to transform
your marriage
A New Way To Love:
- Are you currently in a troubled relationship?
- Are you wondering what happened to the relationship that changed for the worse?
- Do you want to get your old relationship back where both of you were in love and with no worries in the world?
- Would you like to rediscover your partner and create a new, happier, loving narrative?
- Maybe you’re in a new relationship or you’re part of a couple preparing for marriage and your desire is to create a true relationship that will stand the test of time.
- Perhaps you’re single and simply tired of getting into relationships that never seem to meet your expectations.
People believe that when they’re in a loving relationship, it is supposed to last forever. When people fall in love with each other, they then feel like they’ve met the person of their dreams and a magical transformation takes place within each of them. During the “in love” phase, people feel alive, whole, connected to the world and the people in it. Very often though, the magical “in love” feeling disappears and people are left disillusioned. Their dreams of a perfect relationship are shattered, and feelings of anger and betrayal often overwhelm those who are faced with reality.
People often try to coerce their partners into giving them what they need in the relationship, through tactics like criticism, withdrawing from emotional attachment, shaming each other, intimidating partners, and using tears and crying as a method of manipulation – even if it’s unconscious. Some couples are locked in these painful power struggles for years, until the relationship is eventually broken or when one member of the partnership finally seeks help, desperate to regain the magic that the relationship once had.
If these scenarios describe the relationship you are currently in, and you would like to restore some of the passion and intimacy you once had, or you are an individual looking to find the love of your life, IMAGO can show you a new way to love.
What’s going on here?
Romantic love is the way our unconscious mind seeks to restore the feeling of joy, happiness and calmness we felt as a child. In pursuit of this goal, we unknowingly seek relationships with people who emotionally resemble our primary caretakers in both positive and negative ways – we call this finding our Imago match. The term Imago is actually a Latin term that means “the idealized mental image of someone”. Even though our caretakers have both positive and negative qualities, it’s the negative qualities that interfere in our relationships. Our expectations of the image of the individual we have fallen in love with create confusion and disillusionment. Fortunately, embedded in this disillusionment lies everything the relationship needs for healing and growth.
Imago Relationship Therapy provides all the tools necessary for transforming relationships, including some important, immediate relief from bad relationships.
When we remain unaware of the hidden agenda of romantic love, we continue to make the same mistakes. We need to understand that conflict is undirected, unfulfilled growth. By resolving your problem through Imago Dialogue, the emotional bond initially created by romantic love can evolve into the powerful bond that is real love. Imago Therapy creates a sacred space for healing and growth that can lead you to the relationship of your dreams.
We can help you discover the relationship of your dreams through a process of healing, dialogue and re-connection.
Kobus van der Merwe, M.A.

Harville Hendrix PhD en Helen la Kelly Hunt PhD oor Kobus van der Merwe
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I had booked my Imago relationship weekend in July already but life got busy and I postponed to the workshop held over the weekend of 29 November 2019. If I had known what an amazing workshop it would have been I would never have postponed! The workshop is easy to understand and after hearing the theory behind it it’s as if a light on! I am so inspired after this weekend and I have the love of my life back ❤️
Nichola Jayne Pieterse
December 2, 2019 -
I feel this is a must do workshop for any couple! Highly highly recommened! The information that is given is mind blowing and eye-opening at the same time. The tools you are given to use in every day life is incomparable. A massive thanks to Kobus for his hard work, dedication and heart on our workshop!
Claudene Van Wyk
December 8, 2019
Kobus has received The Internation IMAGO Harville Hendrix Award for Clinical Excellence in 2016, Los Angeles, California.

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